I don’t know if anyone will read this, but if they do, I want you to just sit back and listen to what I’m going to say. Like, actually sit back and think before you type.
I was inspired to write this post by a fellow thin person struggling with her weight.
I bring this up as a thin person who struggles with her own weight. I happen to weight less than 85 lbs (most I’ve ever weighed is like 86 lbs for a day). I think I’m underweight to a degree (although I’m short and have always been thin like this), and would like to get to at least 90 lbs and stay there. (My current weight stays in between 78 lbs and 83 lbs normally).
But normally, when I tell people I would like to gain weight (or when I think I’ve gained weight), I get all sorts of dirty looks, people telling me to shut up, and other rude comments. Its actually very hurtful.
When people tell me they are trying to loose weight, I don’t go around saying the same kinds of things to them or acting like their goal is any less than mine.
I’m not going to remind people here specifically of skinny-shaming vs fat-shaming, but this holiday season, I’d just like to share that while you’re thinking of loosing weight this new year’s, trying to maintain your weight, or whatever, to remember that everyone’s goals are important. Just because someone is trying to do something opposite of what you might be doing doesn't mean you’ll get bad karma from them just talking about it.
No one deserves to be put down for their weight goals. If I support you in your effort to loose weight, at least be willing to listen to the people trying to gain it too. We have our own problems too.